A natural breast is more like a raw or very softly boiled egg. Depending on the size of your natural breasts, or your age, or how many children you’ve had, natural breasts can shift positions depending on where you move, and can even go under your arm or flat like a pancake. Mine sit up cute when I’m standing and fall flat like a raw egg when I’m on my back. There are brassieres that transform my low boobs into round, fake-looking bazongas. These brassieres are said to “magically ‘transform’ you”, but, truth be told they’re more like torture devices, pulling your flesh into places it never intended to go.
I have, on numerous occasions, been confronted by other people’s discomfort with my breasts (and not just online). I had a horrid audition experience where the casting director actually made someone in her office take off their own push-up bra for me to wear because she did not like where my breasts were sitting. Apparently, the whereabouts of my breasts were key to my acting skills!
I’ve had long conversations with my manager about my breasts or, as she calls them, “the girls”. I’ve had to defend their placement, as she suggested I should wear a “better bra”, alluding to the fact that others have made comments about my breasts to her. These experiences gave me pause: I felt hurt, reduced to an object, a pair of tits: tits that were, apparently, un-cast-able.
Of course, I’m an actress and my body is my instrument, so a certain amount of discussion about my body is expected. This is the business I have chosen. But, I feel that some things are just not meant for other people’s comments. I mean, whether your breasts were positioned by God, Mother Nature or our gene pool,short of getting a “boob-job” it’s something you just can’t control
I remember in grade school I made a comment about my teacher wearing the same clothes two days in a row. My mom explained that there are just certain things we might notice about other people that don’t need to be said out loud. Most of us learn early on that it is not kind to make fun of difference and that if we don’t have anything nice to say, it’s best to say nothing. As the saying goes, “opinions are like assholes: we all have them.”